We often think we are communicating effectively and of course, we want people to take action on what we say. So it can be frustrating when we talk and share a message and NOTHING happens. Crickets…. Most likely, you were doing only half of what needs to be done to effectively communicate- the talking part. Listening is the other half – perhaps the better half – of all communication. Unfortunately, most people rarely receive any formal training for how to do it properly. Improving your listening skills can enhance your professional and personal life. Follow these practical steps towards becoming a better listener, even in challenging situations where it’s most important.
5 Tips for Better Listening
1. Ignore distractions:
Give the speaker your full attention by looking him/her in the eye. Don’t be looking at your phone or anything else. Let the speaker know you’re interested. Having an appreciative audience makes it easier for people to express themselves. It will also help you stay alert. If you notice your mind wandering, bring it back to the subject at hand.
2. Listen for the main points:
It’s usually more effective to focus on understanding the key points that someone is making, rather than trying to etch each word into your memory. Listen as though you were taking notes even if you’re not.
3. Hear people out.
Let people present what they have to say without being interrupted. Concentrate on what they’re saying rather than formulating your own response. Don’t just wait by patiently until you can have the next word. Listen for understanding.
4. Encourage people to express themselves:
Sometimes people are hesitant to approach a sensitive topic. Use open-ended questions and patient pauses to enable a more complete discussion. Verify the message. With complex or emotionally charged material, it’s important to listen attentively and verify what the other person is saying. You can repeat back a brief summary of the message to be sure you’re both on the same page.
5. Listening with empathy:
One of the best ways to understand what a person is really saying is to put yourself in their shoes. Try to understand their thinking and feelings. Manage your own emotions. When you’re listening to something that evokes a strong emotion, you may need to detach yourself temporarily from your feelings. It’s critical to distinguish between what is actually being said and your own assumptions and emotions.
Remember, God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Becoming a better listener can enhance your own life and help you make a more positive contribution to the lives of others. Enjoy the many benefits of improving your listening skills.
This is such a great reminder!
Totally agree with your point, “Encourage people to express themselves”. Giving others permission to share what’s on someone’s mind and heart is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and respect for that other person. When you do, they will be more willing to engage with you. Love it!